There are
so many questions caregivers have. I had a million and probably still, a
million more! Sadly, I found out very quickly that caregiving was a learned
thing and you have to educate yourself, below are some steps that I took.
Please
know that I work for a law firm but I am NOT an Attorney, these are all things
that I learned needed to be done. If it is Helpful, I am in Maryland. These
things may vary from state to state.
About a
year before this, my brother and I got Power of Attorney (POA). For us, it was
fairly easy. My brother and I pretty much agree on everything, he pretty much
allows me to just do what needs to be done. We have Dual POA. It is worded that
if he is unavailable or unwilling to make these decisions, I automatically get
the say. This works well for us but if there are a bunch of siblings, issues
can certainly arise. Anyway…..There are different kinds to get. There is POA
Financial and then POA Medical, then there is Advanced Directive (AD) and also
Managed Care Agreements (MCA).
Here is
what each one means....
POA-Financial:
This will give the ability to take over all financial matters. You will be able
to pay their bills with their money, from their bank account. You will be able
to call debtors and discuss their financial affairs. You will also be able
to do transactions at the bank, HOWEVER, I suggest you get your name on their
bank account.
POA-Medical:
This will allow you to discuss their health with doctors without them being
present. You will be able to call their medical insurance, get medical records
and anything relating to their health.
(These
two POA’s are two different papers which any attorney can draw up. I cannot
remember how much we paid but it was not a lot of money)
Advanced
Directive: This is their medical wishes should they need to be kept alive
artificially or DNR (Do Not Resuscitate). Feeding tube etc……A lot of hospitals
have these papers, if your LO (Loved One) is in placement, the social worker
usually has them.
Managed
Car Agreement: Let me put it you straight up, Assisted Living places start at
about 3k a month, that is on the low end and god knows what kind of care your
LO would get for that. A managed care agreement allows you to be paid for your
time and care of your LO. Remember that you will, most likely, need to claim
taxes on these funds.
I am sure there is more but these are the important
papers that I know of for now. If your loved one is moving in with you or you
are their primary care taker, GET these done. You will need them. Even if they
are of sound and mind, remind them of how important these are should something
happen and you need to make decisions on their behalf.
People, I cannot stress that these papers vary from state to state, bank to bank and insurance to insurance. One company may require one thing while another something else. Always check with an Elder Law Attorney.Meanwhile, Back at base, I came home today to finish the above but had to clean up poop splattered all down the side of the toilet with a pile on the floor! Seriously, when they say caretaking is not for the weak at heart, They were not kidding! So for the remainder of the day,, do I WHINE or do I WINE? lol
Stick around, I still have not gotten to the fun part!